Let's start with the opponents, the religious right, which is neither (sort of like the Moral Majority in that regard). The problem for them is they talk about opposing gay marriage as a demonstration of their religious faith. Supposedly, all good Christians oppose gay marriage. Needless to say, this is bullshit. It's what they THINK all good Christians should do, because they secretly suspect that a lot of good Christians, like me, don't oppose gay marriage.
The result is typical religious hypocrisy. There's this practice in the various churches that faith trumps everything else. People may be weak and sin, but as long as they are true believers, they are okay and to be forgiven. As a result, really stupid shows of support are happening.
Let's start with the biggest rallying point, Carrie Prejean, Miss California, whose simple opinion got her embraced by the religious nuts as a person in the public eye who supports their cause. In making her their new poster child, they are overlooking some very non-Christian things:
1) She posed for sexy pictures in varying states of undress. She ain't apologizing for it, neither. She says doing things like that is all part of the job (and may get her title taken away from her yet). So overt sexual displays are fine. Remember when the priest made you wash your eyes with holy water for looking at stuff like that?
2) She has shifted her stance from personal opinion to editorial statement. Way to embrace celebrity, kiddo.
3) Her parents are apparently getting divorced. What great examples of the sanctity of hetero marriage.
Other defenders of traditional marriage are Marion Barry, former Washington DC mayor and current councilman, who says he has to take a stand for religious decency. Remember all those scandals he was involved in, as well as divorces? Nevada is trying to get a law through that will grant civil unions the same legal rights as marriage. The governor of Nevada, whose been divorced more than once himself, promises to veto it to protect the sanctity of marriage. What does it tell you about your movement when the people who show the least respect to your ethics are chosen by you to be be your greatest champions?
The bigots are also decending on Iowa to try to get people to amend the state constitution to outlaw gay marriage. Hopefully, it's too late, though. In order for Iowa to amend its constitution, whatever amendment is being considered has to be passed by two sitting legislatures. This pushes the earliest such an amendment can make it on the ballot to 2012 at the earliest (assuming, of course, such a proposal doesn't get stuck in subcommittees, like what Massachuttes is doing with the amendment being jammed down its throat). Hopefully, by then, people will see that the hyperbole in the anti-gay messages is just hot air and people won't really care.
The gays aren't doing too much better. Here's a fun fact: Carrie Prejean's stance on marriage is virtually identical to President Barack Obama. He says he doesn't believe in gay marriage, wonders if civil unions would be better, but won't inject his opinion or take a stand since he feels it is a state's rights issue. Yeah, that's working real good so far. And yet, despite this amazing lip service where he won't campaign for legal equality, gays still look to him as a champion of their rights. Attention, gays and lesbians -- OBAMA SOLD YOU OUT! He used you to get elected, and will not deliver on any of his promises to you. Just because someone is a minority doesn't mean they will help you when they succeed. This selective forgiveness is just as hypocritical as the right wingers trying to "protect" marriage.
Safer than a rugby scrum and just a little more interesting....