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Ten Day Meme: Day Three

Stolen from clionona ....

Day One:  Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)
Day Seven: Four turn offs.
Day Eight: Three turn ons.
Day Nine: Two images that describe your life right now, and why.
Day Ten: One confession.

Day Three:  Eight ways to win your heart.

1)  Be fun.  Now, I'm not saying make a fool of yourself in public.  I HATE party girls, always have, always will.  One of the first things I learned about dating women was, she wants an animal in the bedroom, NOT IN PUBLIC!!!  There's a difference between acting goofy and being embarrassing.  Here's some illustrating examples that I think sum up my perspective....




Jesus fuggin' NO!!!

2)  Have some pride, be selective.  I don't like the desperate adolescence some people conduct themselves with.  I liken it to the difference between the sex appeal demonstrated by Kylie Minogue and Britney Spears.  Kylie sings about wanting to sleep with you because you appeal to her.  Britney sang about wanting to sleep with you so she would appeal to you.  One knows what she wants and isn't afraid to say no, the other is so desperate for attention and affection, she will do anything, whether she likes it or not, just to have you.

3)  A sense of humor.  I don't know why guys don't like it when women tell jokes.  I love it when women tell me jokes on a date.  It's a sign that she wants to make me happy.  That's a real bell ringer for me.

4)  A genuine heart.  I've dated a few women who weren't as smart as me, but they were sincere and compassionate and tried to keep up with me, and I wanted to do things so they could keep up with me.  I found myself gravitating towards them a lot more than women who were as smart or smarter but left me feeling cold.  (I checked out a Mensa meeting once because I was told, "It's actually a singles club that doesn't kick its members out after they get married.  What a bunch of nutcases.)

5)  Be flexible.  A well-planned date hits a problem of some kind.  Or maybe I'm just bored and decide to do something just for the hell of it.  Or maybe she decides to do something for the hell of it.  Spur of the moment or changing plans because something sounds more enjoyable is great to me.  And anyone who follows The Rules doesn't get a second date from me, and is lucky if they get a first.

6)  It's the little things.  As I've mentioned, I'm a cheap date.  I don't need a big night on the town.  One of my earliest girlfriends was hungry on the way to see me, stopped at Taco Bell, and got tacos for both of us.  She didn't know whether or not I'd eaten, and I thought it was the sweetest thing.

7)  Be engaging.  "Whatcha doing, honey?"  Hearing, "Oh, nothing," isn't very engaging.  "I'm building a model of Tokyo out of toothpicks."  "Why?"  "Well, I just got a Godzilla doll, and I need something to do with it."  THAT'S engaging.

8)  Accept my limitations, but not my liabilities.  If I'm acting like a jerk or being rude or I need to take a shower or something, voice your opinion.  But if there is something I genuinely cannot do (e.g. play golf), please just accept that.


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Feb. 19th, 2011 09:14 am (UTC)
The silly group shot is an amazing photo. Love it. Looks like a picture taken at a con, judging by the lobby-carpet floor and people sitting down in the background. I'm curious how the Ariel did her tail.

However, your example of "Jesus Fuggin' NO" is a picture of Chris March in one of his costumes (which I think are for drag or parades or personal costume design in general). Perhaps you knew that and used the photo as an example of whatever you were trying to get at (flamboyant fashion? hating fat chicks? I'm not sure), but I thought it curious because your other examples were of women (as far as I can tell without knowing any of the photo op folks personally).
Feb. 19th, 2011 01:32 pm (UTC)
The silly shot was taken in 2005. I THINK it was San Diego, but I'm not sure. It was sent to me by a guy on the Internet and I've held on to it since (in fact, that pic has already appeared once in another blog entry about a year ago). There's actually a few floating around the Internet, so I assume, when this group gets together, they always ham it up like that (I have one where the person giving Alice a noogie is the Mad Hatter). I also have a pic by an artist who works in the Disney style showing the Disney princesses in similar poses.

As for the second, it's the wrongness that made me choose the pic, not hating overweight women. You were looking too deeply into it.
Feb. 19th, 2011 01:36 pm (UTC)
P.S. The group shot actually had some fallout. There's a Disney princess board where the pic surfaced and it started complaints from some that Disney princesses were supposed to be dignified and not so sexy (they complained about all the cleavage on Tinkerbell and Snow White in the pic). All I could do was shake my head, because I knew what was coming, and sure enough it did -- a massive flame war about the Disney princesses and predefined gender roles.

A smart man wouldn't have left his foxhole. I stayed in mine.
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