Peter G (sinetimore) wrote,
Peter G
sinetimore

It's Not You, It's Me. I Think We Should See Other People

Well.  That was interesting.

I've just been subjected to a friends cut.

It's not the first time.  At least, I doubt it's the first time.  I don't really check my mutual friends thing very often.

The post was public, so I could read it, although there wasn't anything that singled me out.  There were a couple of things that maaaaaaaaaybe were directed at me, but then again, I don't know for sure, I could just be reading too much in to it.  One explanation was that this person posted something that they thought for sure would get a ton of responses and, when they didn't, out came the axe.  (Uh...I like to let people talk, I don't feel the need to constantly inject myself like someone trying to hard to be friends.  At least, I think so.  I don't know which post it was, so for all I know, I just didn't find it interesting enough to comment on.)

I checked my profile, and sure enough, I was dropped.  Okay.  I went and edited and removed them.  I mean, what's the point?

I'm not quite sure how to react.  I mean, I'm guessing this is supposed to be a big deal.  The message mentions apologies if being cut offended, how maybe it was a mistake and if it was they will friend you again just don't give 'em the cold shoulder, and other stuff.  I suppose that's an offer for, if you think being cut was a mistake, you can contact them and ask to be "reinstated."

I've thought it over.

I don't want to.

It's not any desire for vengeance on my part.  This person posts extremely infrequently.  I had initially friended them because we seemed to have enough common interests and creative goals that there'd be interaction.  But there's been very very little, certainly far less than I expected.  It's like finding out the grocery store clerk doesn't like making small talk with you.

I like to read.  Part of the whole thing with friending people is to get things to read.  And this person simply didn't post things to read very often, and only responded to one of my posts in the past year.

I would like to send this person a message that says, "Don't apologize.  It didn't work for whatever reason, and that's all there is to it."  It's not like I'm going to lose sleep over this.

Just wondering, do people really get THAT upset over being cut?
Tags: self reflection
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